Things are settling down.
I’ve been working through my emotional breakdown this weekend. Last night I was hungry and looking for something but couldn’t put my finger on it. So at 9:00pm my DH & I set out for the grocery store. We mulled around looking at the food. Picked up some crackers & cheese for my youngest, mandarin oranges for the middle one, El Fudge cookies for the oldest, Peanut Butter for the puppy, and DH settled on Orange Crush in bottles, and some fudge lite bars. I was not sure what I wanted but knew it had to be sweet. I picked out some WW ice cream (preportioned 2pts), some sugar Twists (1pt each). I went home and made myself some SF/FF hot cocoa with two of the twist. I say thats a NSV for me! It could have been alot worse!
So for my ex husband dilema I talked to the kids and we decided that I would drive them once a month to see him but it wouldn’t start till after the holidays. I also decided not to tell him in hopes it would motivate him more to get a car. I’m also wondering if this upset him enough that he’ll stop sending child support. Can he really do that? I mean it’s sappose to be a law and it sappose to come right out of his check but I don’t think they enforce it at all. He’s so far back in child support that he could be hauled off to jail for contempt of court. Heck Bobbi Brown was thrown in jail for only being $10.000 behind. I don’t have the lawyers to do that and the state isn’t going to do it for me. Aww shucks. LOL
Good luck to you. I can tell you from experience that no matter what you do, your ex will always blame you for everything. I have been very lucky in the way that my ex had to leave the state and I had a restraining order against him for most of the time my children were growing up, but he still tried. Now my children are old enough, and I was worried with my son especially, that he may want to know his father, and we had quite a chat. Again, I was fortunate in the way that he had no desire there. He now is old enough, if he wanted to he could do it on his own, but doesn’t appear to want to. All you can really do is support them as you can, be the good mother you have been that got them this far, and be there when he lets them down. They will learn in time. Sonetimes it’s terribly painful, but there does come a day when they are older and are able to understand more, they will tell you how much they appreciate how much you truly love them and all you do.
By the way, if you go to the District Attorney’s office, yes they do enforce child support issues. Also there’s a couple of organizations, child-support.org and check out cafemom.com that might be able to help you.
Thank you, I will definitely take the time and check out those organizations.
I just figured they didn’t, due to my child support worker telling me nothing could be done. I’m not a big fan of his.